The ManCrush

I'm sure many of you have heard of something called "The ManCrush." It is a term that gets thrown around and is often misunderstood by both men and women. I shall set the record straight today and tell you all you need to know about The ManCrush. I'll give you a brief definition and elaborate on it so you can know what a Manly ManCrush is and more importantly know if you are going too far and at risk of losing your ManHood by Crushing on a man instead of ManCrushing.

A ManCrush is defined as: An unusually strong appreciation for and attraction to the Skills, Abilities, and Character of another man.

The key here is that the attraction/appreciation that a ManCrushing man has on another man is firmly based on a certain Skill and/or Ability. A ManCrush has nothing to do with the physical appeal of another man. That isn't to say that a man cannot appreciate and acknowledge the physical prowess of another man, but that cannot be the basis of a ManCrush.

For example, I have a ManCrush on Blaine Waters. He is an extremely talented guitar player/singer, a fine golfer and a master of the Golden Tee machine. Also, Blaine happens to be a fine looking man over whom the women swoon.

Notice how my ManCrushing is based solidly on Blaine's skills and after that I add the side note of appreciation for his God gifted physical appearance. If the order was switched around that would not qualify as a ManCrush and even worse that would disqualify me as a man. A true ManCrush is indeed a Manly thing and a good thing, but it is also a dangerous thing. You must have the solid foundation I'm talking about here and you must be careful that you don't wander into Crushing versus ManCrushing.
One way to protect yourself is to have more than one ManCrush at any given time. If you have just one ManCrush it can be too easy to over Crush, if you have two that way your appreciation of Manliness is spread out a bit and you're less likely to go too far. Two is the ideal number, you could argue for three but if you have three ManCrushes you're just thinking about men too much overall. It's best if you stick with two, one as the starter (obviously your main ManCrush at the time) and then a back-up to balance yourself out. As you live life you'll realize that ManCrushes will come and go, that's totally fine just be sure to stick with two at a time.

Personally I am at the optimum ManCrush number of two, the above mentioned Blaine Waters and also my sons cardiologist Dr. Gremmels. A very smart/skilled Dr. who is basically saving my boys life, also he dresses very sharply (notice there again, it's okay to acknowledge such things as nice ties as long as the foundation of the ManCrush was the skill and ability of the man).

A lot of ManCrushes can be found in Professional sports, I know a couple of friends who are currently ManCrushing on Adrian Peterson. That's totally fine, there are admiring his skill and ability to run people over.

I'm glad I could bring some clarity and give you a few guidelines for this oft gray subject. The ManCrush is nothing to fear, when handled properely it is Manly emotion that all men experience.